how do i stop hurting

[Quonisha]

how do i get rid of this pain it hurts so bad.i feel alone i can be surrounded by a million people and still feel alone. i lost my brother October 8 of this year a day after my birthday.i feel like i have no one that understands me people say it will ok hes in a better place but i want him here with me. please help me i hate crying all the time. it seems like i have to get messed up just to make it through the day. i dont want to have to live like this please help!
R.I.P BUBBA i love you forever and always

[Teresa]

Hi Quinisha,
I feel your pain, though i lost my precious little boy at three years old. I use to get messed up but I found out that it only made me worse. I learned that taking it head on is the best way. Feel the pain and go through it because when your high goes away, the pain will still be there. I still have bad times and bad days but i just have to look at the situation in a better way. No one understands your pain because its yours, so try not to get offended by what people tell you or say, just tell them he was your brother, not theirs. Its been two years now and I still want him back to this day. I have two little girls who miss him dearly and when i told them that i was pregnant, they got mad at me. They think that this baby will take the place of their little brother but the truth is that no one can replace him because he was special in their hearts and my heart.But maybe this baby can heal our hearts a little. May God bless you and and heal your heart. Visit my page. Be blessed.
My name is Teresa and my son's name is Larry better known as LJ".

[Ann]

I fully understand the pain you are having. I lost my brother in January 2001. Well meaning friends always state things like "he's in a better place" etc., usually because they have no other means of trying to console you. Crying is a good thing. It means you can still feel. It is a part of the grieving process. We always wish that the one we lost was still with us. That is a fact of life. I can offer you some solice in that the grieving gets better with time. There are still days when I cry over the loss of my brother. Especially during holidays and his birthday. Even after 8 years I don't go a day without thinking about him. You will be in my prayers. Getting "messed up" is not the answer either. One way to look at that is to ask yourself , "how would my brother have reacted?" ! Would he have wanted you "getting messed up" to cope with the day? If he was like mine -- he would not. Life is full of hurts and tragedies. My only solice is my faith in God and my saviour, Jesus. Without being able to lean on Them I don't think I would have made it at all.

Just remember that the pain gets easier over time. As with all wounds they will eventually heal!

[Jeanne Christie]

Hi Quonisha
Your brother does not want you to be crying all the time, just as you would not want him to be in such pain , if you had gone on!
Heaven is celebrating his return, he is still 'alive' - just in a different form of energy, and you WILL se him again!
As someone said, it is fantastic just to be able to FEEL- anything, it's what separates us form inanimate objects.
I 'lost ' 5 members of my family in 5yrs and for several years could feel nothing, as my feeling were frozen up.
That was worse than feeling pain, at least you can work through that.
Things WILL improve , even though you never get over the loss, as loved ones leave a gap in your life.
Do things that you did together in memory of him - and Laugh- at the things you used to laugh at.
He loves you as much as you love him and wnts you to enjoy the rest of your life.
Be grateful for the time you had with him, he must have been a wonderful person, just as you sound like one.
Pray for help from our Heavenly Father, he will answer your prayers.
You are NEVER alone.
Love, Light and Hugs
Jeannechristie
xx