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HOW DO I HEAL FROM THIS (BAD NEWS)SENTENCEING DAY
Replied May. 17, 2008
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Amanda May. 17, 2008.
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- Mother of 3. 2 girls, Stephanie and Mishke (10 & 8) and Nathan.
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- Nathan died 4 days after his 3rd birthday of sudden cardiac death caused by a virus. He was a healthy happy boy. His birthday was 8 June 2003 and he died 12 June 2006.
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just called to say have a wonderful week,
you must be so proud of your beautiful children!
Lots of love, light and hugs
Jeanne
xx
Hope you and the girls are doing OK. Lots of prayers to Nathan.
Nin
Amanda - I have realised that Nathans birthday and Angel day have just passed - I am so sorry I missed those dates but want you to know that I am sending you belated hugs and hope the days were peaceful for you. I'll be sending a little prayer for Nathan tonight as we release Meshael's balloons.
Blessings always
Gail xx
Take care!
Kerry
Kerry
I forgot to mention how beautiful the photo's of Nathan are. Amongst all the other emotions, remember to be proud for he looks just perfect.
Nin
Hi Amanda - I find it quite extraordinary how many of us share this phenomena actually and I have to agree that it is much 'easier' to have the dates so close together.A friend of mine came around two days after Meshael died with a bottle of champagne and a birthday card - at first a lot of my other friends though she was being insensitive but actually she paved the way to holding a Celebration of Life party each year. It also helps being so busy organising that around the time too.
This year Meshael would be 22 - it all seems to unreal at times. I don't think we ever really come to terms with their loss - we just accept.
I will definately be there for you my love - I get the feeling Meshael is watching over little Nathan.
Hugs to you and your lovely girls.
Thankyou for your reply. Your right, as sad as it is it is helpful to talk to other people who are in a similar situation. It is so sad that you had to deal with another family situation at the time of deep mourning. You must be an extremely strong person and mother. I deeply admire you.
Although Tallie's death was not unexpected, (as much as we hoped for a miracle), we were not expecting it at that particular moment. Her prognosis was 9-12 months. We only got 5 short months. So for me, it was unexpected. I always thought I would know when the time had come to let her go but I didn't feel that then.
To get home to the boys as soon as possible, we had Tallie cremeated. We did not tell them until we got home. The cremation issue in itself was a challange explaining it to the children. We only again went over the process with my 9yr old last week. I regret not having the strength go through the procedures to bring her body home. But in saying that it would have been 2-3weeks before that could have happened. I often feel like the boys never got proper closure because they never got to say good-bye to her body.
I still carry a lot of anger over her death because there were alot of issues surrounding her (pre-mature) death that I have troubles comprehending. Another story for another day.
We still have Tallie's ashes here with us at home and I guess we are waiting to we all feel ready to do something with them. her favourite toy was a stuffed dolphin that went everywhere with her so we always imagine her with the dolphins now. When we are ready I think we will place her ashes out in the Ocean.
I worry daily if I have done enough with the boys to help them through it.
Thinking of you and your 3 precious children,
Nin
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