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I adopted Christopher as a single person on April 26, 1995. I lost him on this earth on December 8, 2007. I work at Florida State as an Accountant, but am in the MSW program, looking forward to the future. I plan to graduate in Summer 2009, just months after Christopher was to graduate from high school

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Christopher loved cars and so did his friends. He was a tender hearted man who seemed to have so much to offer, but God had another plan. Friday, December 7, 2007, he was riding in the car with his friend John. John was going too fast and when a car turned in front of them, there was no time to react. Linda was in the other car that night and was killed instantly; Christopher made it to the hospital, but died in surgery just after midnight.

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At 7:59pm on May 11, 2009, Jaquelin Nunez said…: Like what ya see baby, then come see me live on my webcam You'll enjoy it. I promise!!!! freelocalcams.info

At 12:29pm on November 23, 2008, MissingMyAmazingSonBrad said…: Hi Judy, Thinking of you ------ I've been Kind of spinning out of control. We hit Brad's 1 year mark- last month- As you are sadly aware yourself- life is just so hard. And with the holidays coming I just want to disappear--- One good thing happened- I established a private family cemetery in a wooded area on our property. And brought our dear Brad home. This was something I have been working on since the accident happened. It just feels right - a private cemetery of our own in a peaceful area of our property - just like the old days.
How are you doing?

At 8:40pm on September 4, 2008, MissingMyAmazingSonBrad said…: Thinking of you !

At 12:05am on June 19, 2008, Janna Campbell said…: Judy, I am so sorry. I am sorry as well that we find the need to have groups like this! There is good though, I remember shortly after loosing my daughter in 1995, I joined an online support group such as this. Some of the 'old timers' said things that just seemed impossible to believe. They were saying things I wanted to hear but felt that as bad as I felt at that time I would never get to their level. It took a lot of time, work, tears. . .but I did it!! I made it! I am a survivor. I know also that my daughter is proud of me for being able to put myself back together (and I was a wreck) and be there for her brother and other family members. She would have wanted that. Why are we the ones chosen for such a cross to bare? My heart/prayers go out to you. If you ever want to chat, I am here for you. It has been 13 years for me now, the little tree at her 'place' is now a big tree. I still miss her everyday and wish that I still had her, but God had other plans. (hugs) Janna

At 7:38am on May 23, 2008, MissingMyAmazingSonBrad said…: Hi Judy, I can't beleive its been 7 months since I hugged him ,seen his smile, heard about his day & enjoyed his humor. Oh just to touch his face again. Most days I feel like i am spinning out of control, I cant focus on what I am doing & don't even care. Then I get a calmer day (maybe like you mentioned about becoming normal) - those days scare me .. I kinda feel like my brain takes over & is trying to give me a little break - I go into this complete blank-state, And I can get a few things accomplished. Only it scares me because I have learnt of the complete shut down that follows. I do try to pull my self out of it - but - the reality of life just keeps smoothering me. I am so sorry about the family of 1 - , you saying that breaks my heart. I have said- to my husband... Family of 5 - thats us. Not 4 ---- 5
I Always wanted 5 or even 6. It will always be 5. I am struggling with that, I still find my self thinking .. he should be home at such n such a time- Then the destruction of reality hits again. That normal you mentioned- It sure sucks dosen't it? I have felt it a little in my blank state. Please take care. Love to you- Karen

At 3:23am on May 16, 2008, Gail Richardson said…

At 9:04pm on May 14, 2008, Cyndi Reinhardt said…: Hi Judy- that was my mom's name. My son's name that I lost in October 2007 was Christopher, but he never wanted people to call him that. It was always Chris. Anyway, how old was your son? I am thinking that he was probably 16 or 17, if he was going to graduate in 2009. It is coming up on the anniversary that he graduated from high school and a week later, we found out the cancer was back. Not an easy time for me, but I just keep walking as best I can. That hollow feeling that wells up from down deep inside you is very scary. I miss him so much. We were buds, we talked about everything. I miss that closeness and that connection. It is different from the relationships I have with my other 2 sons, always was. He had greatness in him and the void he has left is so overwhelming sometimes.

At 6:14am on May 8, 2008, Gail Richardson said…: Hi Judy - I am so sorry we have to meet through a forum like this - no-one should have to be here. I am happy that you had Christopher in your life and you gave him so much love. Even though we were not the birth mothers of our children, the bond is just as tight (if not tighter)!!
Your journey of grief is only just beginning, it is a long and troublesome road but please know that there are a lot of people out here to help you through these obstacles. I know sometimes I would question my own sanity.
I've been on this road for almost seven years - my daughter Meshael died in June 2001 two days before her 15th birthday.
Just take one step at a time, every day will bring new challenges. Never be afraid to ask for help, I have broad shoulders and will gladly help you along - our Angels connect us to people they know can help. Please have a look at my blog and I hope you can find some comfort there too.
God bless
love Gail x

At 9:45pm on May 7, 2008, MissingMyAmazingSonBrad said…: Hi Judy - Thinking of You & Christopher-
How are things unfolding with his friend that was driving- You seemed concerned.

At 9:26pm on April 19, 2008, MissingMyAmazingSonBrad said…: Thinking of you & our dear sons.
Today is 6 months since that awful accident that took our Brad.
Life is so hard.